Breaking the Gender Barrier

In my ongoing quest to learn about the LGBT community, this was a new one for me. (Duh, Lynn, that’s why it’s called “learning.”)

I read an article in Time magazine about a trangender who was born female, who’d always wanted to a) transition to male and b) still have a baby.

So he did.

Wowza! Talk about breaking a gender barrier, and not gently, mind you, but SHATTERING it.

Let me be perfectly clear here. I LOVE that he transitioned because that felt natural. I LOVE that he still wanted to have a baby. I LOVE that he did, in fact, have said baby. I’m not against this in any way.

I’m just a little … mind blown, I guess.

This could be our new norm. As we work (for some it’s more work than others, I guess) to accept gender fluidity, we come to terms with some of the more basic principles and they become a little easier every day. Someone wants to transition, so they do. We (hopefully) acknowledge it and adjust pronouns accordingly, and welcome (hopefully) them into our lives with their new gender.

That seems pretty simple to me. You see someone who’s trans and you think, “Hmm. I bet they’re trans.” Or better yet, you don’t even notice or think twice about it.

But when you take it a step further – “Oh look, that man looks like he’s due any day” – then the sheer unconventionality of that takes a moment to get used to.

I’m not sure how long it will take before that becomes as unsurprising as say, the mail truck or the long lines at Disney. I suspect it’ll be awhile before it’s commonplace.

But this guy’s taking baby steps (!) toward making it happen and I applaud him. It takes guts. And conviction. And a whole lotta Pampers.

Congratulations, Evan, on your bundle of joy. Wishing you a baby who’s a good sleeper!


4 thoughts on “Breaking the Gender Barrier

  1. Gender fluidity has been surpressed in most cultures for most of history. That’s why finally discovering that there is this amazing spectrum is so mind blowing, shocking to some (me included). For some of us, the shock does not cause a fear reaction. But I wonder just how far the expressions of gender fluidity will go, how prevalent it may actually be. How many people like this exist in our midst? Like being gay, I think transgenderism will always be a minority in the population at large. Will it ever seem “normal” in the strictest sense of that word? I doubt it. As long as people need to define normal, they will always find some people to be outside that designation. If transgender people are to ever be seen as “normal” it will be in the respnse to them that opens the heart to difference and accepts diversity.


    • Good point, Jerry. “Normal,” as long as it has to be defined, will always exclude someone. I fear it will take a very long time before a man being pregnant will be considered “normal,” but hats off to him for living his life the way he feels compelled.

      It certainly took me aback to read his story, but I’m glad that, for me, it didn’t cause a fear-based reaction… just a surprised one!

      Best to you!


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